How to Interview a Mediator for Your Divorce
Please also refer to our Article: What is a Divorce Mediator and Should I Hire One?
A skilled mediator should make you feel comfortable, respected, and confident in their ability to facilitate productive discussions. After your interview, reflect on whether their style aligns with your needs and whether they create a balanced, solution-focused environment. If both you and your spouse feel at ease with their approach, you’re likely on the right path to a successful mediation process.
Hiring the right divorce mediator is crucial for a smooth and effective resolution. When interviewing potential mediators, you should assess their experience, approach, and compatibility with your situation.
Here are some Onward recommended questions to help you conduct the interview:
1. Assess Their Experience and Qualifications
- What is your background in divorce mediation?
- How long have you been a mediator, and how many divorce cases have you handled?
- Do you have experience with cases involving… your specific situation (e.g., child custody, spousal support, or high-asset divorces)?
- What training and certifications do you have in mediation and conflict resolution?
2. Understand Their Mediation Style
- Do you follow a facilitative, evaluative, or transformative mediation approach? (Some mediators take a neutral role, while others may offer legal guidance or actively suggest solutions.)
- How do you handle power imbalances between spouses?
- What happens if we cannot reach an agreement on certain issues?
3. Clarify the Process and Costs
- What is your typical mediation process, and how many sessions do most couples need?
- What would we do to prepare for our first mediation session?
- Do you provide written summaries of agreements?
- What are your fees, and do you charge hourly or offer flat-rate packages?
- Do you offer virtual mediation sessions if needed?
4. Gauge Their Neutrality and Effectiveness
- How do you ensure that both parties feel heard and respected?
- How do you handle strong emotions or high-conflict situations?
- Can you provide references or testimonials from previous clients?